I do not know where to turn or what to do. My son (11) poked a boy at school in the arm with his finger three times in a row and the boy slapped my son in the face (after school as they were leaving school). The next morning I get a phone call from the school saying I had to come pick up my son because he was suspended and that a police report was made against him for poking the other boy with his finger. I was a little up set that my son was interviewed by an officer with out me there. My son was forced to write a letter to the boy saying that he was sorry. The other boy was not suspended for slapping my son and I was upset about this. My son has never had any problems in school before this and this to me was a parent taking extreme actions in something that was workable between parents and school officials. It never crossed my mind to file a police report on her son for slapping my son in the face. My son was so scared because the other parent kept telling him he was going to jail.
I went to the superintendent’s office later that afternoon. I told him I was concerned because this parent took just drastic actions that I was afraid of retaliation by the parent or the child. I also told him that after my son’s suspension that I was keeping him home and that I would look into home school. I did not want this situation to get out of hand at my son expense. My son was afraid of going to school and is now afraid of law enforcement.
So my son has been home for two weeks and on the 20th of this month I told him to go to the school and drop off all his school work/ home work. I felt he would be safe since it was after school hours and the other boy would have been home already. Boy was I wrong… My son was on the side walk in front of the school and the parent of the boy walked up to him and started screaming at him saying “ your going to go to jail!! , don’t ever come near my son again!” . My son said “you can’t talk to me like that.” The parent then said “why don’t you run home, run to your mommy!!” After the parent did this she went into the school and told the principal that my son walked up to her and started saying bad words and poking her. Thankfully another parent saw what really happened. The parent said my son did nothing to provoke such a terrifying attack. Now what scares me is that if this parent would not have seen this it would have been his word against hers and he would have probably ended up in jail… like she’s been treating.
I called the school and told them my son will not be returning after the holiday break. The school said well your son should not of poked the parent and said bad words to her. This is when I informed them that there was a witness to this and that they could contact the other parent if they would like to know what really happened. They have not contacted that parent still. The school also said the other parent is now keeping her son out of school as well because he is scared and having nightmares. I did get a little rude and say you have to be kidding me… over being poked with a finger? Let me ask you which child do you think looses sleep from this? The boy who got poked with a finger or the boy that was slapped in the face told he was going to jail, and who was verbally attacked and threatened? The schools response “I don’t know this is what she is saying.
I went to the police department later that same evening and filed a report on this parent. Just so there was documentation of the incident.
I feel that this parent has ulterior motives in this situation. I keep asking my self why this parent would go to such lengths over a finger poking incident. Then I remembered how the school district was sued a few years back because they did not stop the bulling of a child. I am thinking maybe this is why she is taking it to such lengths.
As you can see It is now a little after two am and I am still awake.. I wonder how much sleep she is loosing over this.
My son is upstairs asleep thankfully but I am afraid to let him out of my sight he gets very nervous when he see a police car drive down the street and I am so heart broken. My son had a dream of becoming a lawyer when he grows up and now he is afraid of our justice system. He feels no matter what he says no one is listening except me of course.
My son was punched, kicked, shoved to the ground and had things thrown at him all last year by another boy in his class. He told the teacher and the principal. Nothing was done. It happened through out the school year and his complaints went unheard. I talked to school and still nothing was done. Why is it that my son was physically hurt last year and nothing was done but my son pokes a boy with his finger and it turns into this whole mess?
I have been trying to handle this situation in a calm manner and not take it out of hand but I seem to keep getting stepped on by all involved. What do I do?