Last Wednesday my husband and I got into a huge stupid arguement and he wound up shoving me hard and I fell on top of some items and was bruised. I do not think he realized how hard he really shoved me . I called the sheriff's department and deputies responded. I told the deputy I just wanted him to leave with his sister for the night ,so it would cool the situation down ,because we had both been drinking. They took it upon themselves to arrest him and then put a emergency protective order on him . It was for 8 days . I still have not spoken to him directly . I have talked to his mom and sister . Through them mediating, both of us know what happened should not have happened ,and  have agreed to counseling and just working things out. I do not want my husband to go to jail as a result of this . It is not as if we can not work things out . The commonwealth attorney is telling me the charges can not be dropped and I have to testify against him in court .   My question is do I really have to testify against him ? And is there some way of handling this to let the judge know we want to reconcil and get counseling and never let it happen again ? Hoping the judge will allow the counseling and maybe probation or something of that nature. I really do not know what to do about this .